Reframing Your Divorce to Take Control

Independent Family Law Representation


Too many people wait too long to call our office. Many quietly suffer through their divorce or custody disputes, allowing the other party to have all the power in their favor. Your ex may have hired an attorney, and he and his attorney would probably prefer that you just sign what they put in front of you. Some people — frequently moms — are so focused on keeping the divorce as non-adversarial as possible (for the kids), that they end up waiving very important rights that impact themselves or their children later on. It’s tempting to just go with the flow and not hire an attorney of your own, and while everything is friendly it seems that is a fine decision. But years from now when there is a dispute with your ex-spouse, the papers you signed and agreements you made without legal advice can come back to haunt you and your children.

You Need Your Own Attorney

You cannot rely on your spouse’s attorney to treat you fairly. His job is to represent his own client, and to act in his client’s best interest. You are not his client; he doesn’t have an obligation to protect your interests. If your divorce or separation has been friendly, you may feel OK about relying on your spouse’s attorney. But this is unwise. Hiring your own divorce attorney gives you the strength to plan for your future and the future of your children. It moves you from a passive role to an active role, and allows you to set the priorities for the separation and what the relationship will look like afterwards.

Regain Control of Your Divorce or Custody Dispute

You may feel like nothing is happening on your case, or that you’re being railroaded by the other side. Just sitting and waiting for something to happen is distressing. By hiring a family law attorney, you can get proactive and regain your footing in your family. Your spouse has no more right to control the direction of your divorce than you do, and it can feel good to be back in the driver’s seat of your own life. A strong family law attorney can help you take control of the situation with your ex-spouse.  We work with clients in Newport News, Hampton, Williamsburg, and throughout the Virginia Peninsula.

Contact us for a free consultation on your case.